Reasons for the breakdown of the Christian marriage

Some people like to cite statistics, according to which 50% of the Christian marriages break up. Others consider religion to be an integral aspect that will promote greater love in marriage. Various statistics can be questioned, but it cannot be denied that too many marriages fail, even when it comes to Christians. The difference in the number of divorced Christians and non-Christians was not great. However, they recently stated that the number of adults currently married is much higher among Christians than among non-Christians.

Some people like to cite statistics, according to which 50% of the Christian marriages break up. Others consider religion to be an integral aspect that will promote greater love in marriage. Various statistics can be questioned, but it cannot be denied that too many marriages fail, even when it comes to Christians. The difference in the number of divorced Christians and non-Christians was not great. However, they recently stated that the number of adults currently married is much higher among Christians than among non-Christians.
Here are some crucial reasons why some Christian marriages break up. Make sure that you do not make such mistakes in your marriage.

Growth delay

Regardless of your age, when you get married, you cannot know everything about it. Some churches proclaim the following: "Just practice sexual abstinence before marriage, and then in marriage you will be rewarded with happiness and a sense of satisfaction." This is a sad distortion of truth. While complete intimacy can be enjoyed only in marriage, any relationship must continue to grow and develop. You are not born with the ability to love, and love does not fill you from the moment you say “Yes!” at the altar. Learning to love truly takes time and purposeful effort. This implies an endless investment in your relationship, openness to learning, including the ability to communicate and the ability to forgive, as well as the ongoing process of knowing yourself and your spouse. When your marriage stops developing, it starts to die like a tree.

Guilt, shame and reproaches

Marriage is the union of two sinners, two spoiled people. Fortunately, the good news is that you do not need to remain in that position. God offered you and your spouse a solution. But the enemy known to us only wants to take advantage of your and your spouse's mistakes in order to break you, divide you, and destroy your relationship. You will be mistaken. Your spouse will be wrong. You will hurt each other. Focusing on mistakes and wounds will doom your marriage to death. The right position is to realize as quickly as possible what went wrong and focus on the decision. Understand this. Do everything you need to grow and change, and continue to move on.

Control and manipulation

This can be a destructive force in marriage, regardless of your faith. It has been seen that too many marriages where talking about God or biblical utterances were used as a weapon to control and manipulate a spouse. It is then that Christianity becomes a destructive force. Keep in mind, this is not true Christianity, but it often becomes a parody of it. When you use spirituality as a means of excellence, to rule over your spouse, humiliate, control, and manage, you greatly reduce the chances of your marriage surviving. And by this you also complicate access to God for any influence. You cannot change your spouse. This is God's work, not yours. Hide your inept hands and leave the work to God. Your spouse is responsible for his behavior before God. And it is better for you pay attention to your own heart.

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