Living Intentional – Ordering My Home

I used to think that you were either born neat and organized and on top of life, or you weren’t.  Let’s be clear: I wasn’t.  Forget a silver spoon, I would take a well organized file cabinet any day.  Or a well organized anything.  (Lest we forget, I have a preschooler that I’m homeschooling, an independent and inquisitive 2 and a half year old, and a baby on the brink of toddling everywhere.)  And I get that grace is in order for this season of life.  But I’m so sick of just struggling to keep the laundry pile from toppling over, the dishes from obstructing the sink, and the piles from driving Superman to Happy Acres.  Anyone else identify?  Please say yes.  🙂

So I set about studying how to be a better homemaker, and I stumbled across a golden key.  Ready?  Here it is:

The key to a well ordered home is a well ordered day.

2016 is the year that I need to establish routines so that I don’t need to think through every single task, every single day.  I have way too many other things to use what limited brain power I still possess. 🙂  I’m in the beta testing phase for a morning, afternoon, and evening routine.  And I’m trying to get up before the munchkins most mornings.  (Note the key words, trying and most.  I am a work in progress on that!!!) 🙂

More organization = better.

Amen?  I’m talking purging stuff, organizing what’s left, and being a more intentional steward of my time.  Simple, right?  But not easy for a distractible gal like me.  But I’m realizing more and more that clutter overwhelms and exhausts me, and neat and clean areas energize me…so here’s to less STUFF.

And, I’m enlisting help.

No, I’m not talking about a cleaning lady (although, that sounds glorious!)  🙂  The kiddos are too little to be of much measurable help now, but I’m beginning the training process.  JoJo helps me unload the dishwasher every morning while Alaina brings down the dirty laundry and empties the trash from upstairs.  Alaina also dresses herself and makes her own bed, and JoJo (with help from me) tidies the living room.  They work together to put toys away before nap and bedtime, and also clear off the table and set it for meals.

Lastly, I’m studying up.

I have to give a shout out to Jami Balmet at Young Wife’s Guide for her Biblical encouragement in homemaking.  I’m working my way through the Homemaking Ministries Online Conference 2015.  There’s lots of practical tips, and my favorite part is seeing other homemakers.  Being a stay at home wife and mom is a truly wonderful career, but it can feel lonely at times! 🙂

Say Goodbye to Survival Mode has been such an encouragement to me.  I’m not all the way through it, but there’s been a lot of helpful information for me, and I enjoy Crystal Paine’s writing style.

If you’re one of those amazing, naturally organized people, what’s your best tip to a reforming messaholic?  And if you’re right there with me, longing for better organization and a well-run household, what’s your biggest struggle?

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  1. Mess totally stresses me out and just like you, organization energizes me! However, I struggle with staying organized and being consistent with routines…I’m just all over the place! I think I lack discipline and just get lazy. I love how you are involving the kids with daily tasks! You are such an amazing mom and wife (and I know you are rolling your eyes but DON”T).

  2. Indeed, I do think some are born with organizational skills. I always organized my dresser drawers as a little child; my sisters did not. One of our granddaughters does the same thing; the other one does not. But something that has helped me is this…try to only handle an item one time. Ex: When you get the mail, don’t look at it partially. Keep bills and essentials in their proper place and trash the rest. When you fold laundry, don’t place it on a bed or dresser top; put it where it goes. Handle things once. It’s been a great help, even if I don’t do it 100% of the time.

    1. Wow, Pam, I SO appreciate that wonderful tip! I think that so much of my mess comes from only partially handling things…and making way more work and mess for myself in the process!

      1. I have the same beginning tip for you as well. There was 5 kids in my home and my mom was definitely a messy. I married a man that at a very young age would turn around at his doorway and let his eyeballs double check his room and make sure nothing was out of place before going to breakfast. His mother did not allow toys out of their bedrooms. As you can well imagine, bringing the two of us together was a disaster waiting to happen. I literally got the white glove treatment over the tops of doorways! Something had to give and it was ME. I began small tackling the top of the dresser first. Vowing to never place another item of clothing/laundry there again. Putting it away when removed from my body or laundry when folded. Once that habit was instilled, I moved on to the next “disaster” habit. This kind of follows the “handle things once or as little as possible” theory. And it worked. 43 years later, God is still working on me. LOL I was just thinking about the spare room I had once my children were all grown and gone and we moved over here to Summerville. That room was a catch all for everything that I did not want to deal with at the moment or did not know what to do with. God took care of that…drum roll please…He gave us Suzie and Kala. He filled that one bed and I had to move Kala into the corner of my sewing room…talk about having to be neat and orderly in order to fit in God’s precious gifts! As a wrap up Kelly, you have probably discovered, as I have, that clutter, disorganization and stuff weighs heavy on our shoulders. We don’t realize just how heavy until we accomplish a specific “cleansing” task and it feels as though the weight of the world has been lifted. Our spirits soar. Christ is an awesome example for us. He had an orderly mind. He was single minded in His devotion to the father and everything He did was funneled through that devotion. I am very much in the middle of, through prayer, purging those things in my life that hinder my having the Mind of Christ. Praying for God to root out the dark places that dwell within, that keep me in bondage to myself, my ideas, my thought processes, my actions, my fears and anxieties, etc. Everything that keeps me from being my utmost for His highest in my own heart, my marriage, my motherhood, my home, my church and this world, etc. Sorry this got so long. Was much more I could have said regarding how I am training my little ones now to be keepers in our home, but will spare you. Take care and God bless.

  3. I’m with you! Definatly not organized at all! Need to get better about it. I am working at it though. Right now knowing I need a schedule and getting things in order are key. I have a schedule written out, now I just need to discipline myself to do it.

  4. Oh man, I hear you, Kelly! I really feel like homeschooling brings on its own level of craziness because we’re here all day and books and pencils and the next thing I know every surface in this house covered with stuff?! 🙂 It’s a challenge we are faithfully working on. I just finished reading The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up to get re-inspired and I plan to start a little magic here over the weekend. Wish me luck! 😉

    1. Oh, I will be praying for you this weekend as you implement your plans, Katie! 🙂 I have heard so many great things about that book. When my reading list gets a little more whittled down, I’d like to read it! 🙂

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